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Journal Question #4
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Is it important to have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Think of your situation now, as a teenager, in high school, working on learning English as well as learning other subjects. Where does having a personal relationship with someone - someone more than a "friend" - fit into your life? What do your parents think? (Does that matter?)
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- I have been a language teacher (ESL/ELL, French) for 30 years. I have taught in public and private schools, immersion programs, refugee programs, adult/continuing education, elementary, middle, and high school as well as university. Currently I teach ELL at a high school somewhere in New England.
Eric:
ReplyDeleteI think in my present stage of learning is the most important thing for me, and not to fall in love, even if I fall in love, study should also be in the first place, because I think this a few years is decided to a few years of my life, if this a few years don't study hard, I might later will regret there is no good good study, it is also possible to pay had not studied over the years, My parents think that although study is very important, we still need to go through some stages of falling in love and making friends, which is also very important for our growth. I agree with my parents
Paloma:
ReplyDeleteI think it’s ok having a relationship being a teenager if you know how to live your day to day. For
example if you are here like me for learning English it could be good for you dating someone
American because it’s good for you to talk English countinually. It could be bad for other things
like your time, because if you are dating someone you have to spend time with him, then with
your friends to, study so you just have to know how to organize your life and if you are mature
enough you can be in a relationship being teenager
It is not important, it doesn't matter if you don't have, but also doesn't matter if you have, if you have a good schedule of your day, and organize your time, you can have good grades and have a boyfriend. In my life, I do have a boyfriend and I don't have problem with school I continue a normal life. About my parents, I think that they don't have any problem with that. Maybe at the begging a little bit, because I was very young, but now that time have passed, I think they like it.
ReplyDeleteA relationship is not that easy, you have to organise yourself and your life and it doesn't matter the age you have. Of course you can have a relationship with someone who is more than a friend being a teenager, it doesn’t matter if you are a teenager or not. It depends on how much maturity you have to carry with a relationship. In my case, I put studies before a dating relationship. Maybe I would have a relationship some years later, not now. My parents think the same as me, I prefer to focus on studies and then I can have a relationship if I want. But that is only in my case, if you are a person who can carry being in a relationship with someone who is more than a friend, and focus on studies too, it’s amazing. Also you must be a responsible person to organise your life well to support all.
ReplyDeleteMic:
ReplyDeleteIt depends on the couple, how do they manage their love. In my opinion, having a relationship with someone isn’t the problem,but rather managing and reconstructing relationships. People find it difficult to adjust, which leads to breaking up. My parents never prohibited me from having a girlfriend, but they always remind me when I do have a girlfriend, don’t forget about education.As for me, having a girlfriend is beneficial. It encourages me to take education seriously.
Damir:
ReplyDeleteI think that having a boyfriend/girlfriend is not necessary at any point of life especially as a teenager, I think that teenagers have to focus more on them selfs, study and work more. But of course you can’t control your feelings for someone and if you fall in love with somebody I think it’s ok but it’s going to be harder for both because of school, maybe work and things like that and boyfriend/girlfriend needs the attention. If my parents tell me I can’t have a girlfriend I think I wouldn’t really listen to them.
Kevin:
ReplyDeleteI think this depends on each point of view, everyone has their own, everyone has the right to love but must know how to allocate time appropriately. My parents think it's normal because it's 4.0 era so they see everything like that as normal
Andrea:
ReplyDeleteFor me it’s not important to have a boyfriend, but if there is somebody special for me more than friends it will be fine. I think if you have a boyfriend in this stage of life it will be cool but you also have to take care about your priorities for example the school. My parents don’t care because now I am 15 but they will be sure is a good boy for me before they let me go out with him.
Luciana:
ReplyDeleteI think that having a boyfriend is something awesome, but not necessary at this time of my life.
I believe this because, is very nice to have somebody that you can trust and talk about your feelings and your emotions.
But some bad things about relationships are that it needs a lot of your attention and takes a lot of your time. Also, relationships are sometimes very emotionally challenging and this can distract you from the school.
This is the main reason why my parents don’t let me have a boyfriend right now, because at this point of my life school should be my first priority.
It depends on how people thinking, but I think it's necessary.
ReplyDeleteBy dating when you are young, you have to meet many people to get that much experience, grow that much more, and easily decide on your marriage partner when you become an adult. No one knows because you can meet him or her in adolescence and get married. And also if you have a hard time, you can tell to your girl friend or boy friend about your worries and get advice. So I think it's good to make a girlfriend. However, you should be able to control yourself so that it does not affect your study. Adults' thoughts may be the opposite, but teenagers like to have girlfriends and I think this is a good experience.
Relationships are important.
ReplyDeleteAnd most of the time love gives us motivation to work more hard.
But “too much of anything is bad” there is always something that is more important in a certain period, for now it’s time to focus on school.
My parents don’t mind if I’m in a relationship, but they will make sure that I'm focusing on school.
Friends and boyfriend or girlfriend are important in different way. You might like your friend, but you don't love your friend way you like girlfriend or boyfriend.
DeleteGuillo:
ReplyDeleteI think it is not so important to have a girlfriend until you turn 18, although if you have one and you love her a lot and it doesn't hurt your grades can be good to have one, right now I only can have a girlfriend if I I love her a lot and it wouldn't hurt me with my grades or other thinks. My dad told me before he came to find me a girlfriend with whom I am going to speak in English to practice my English.
Terry:
ReplyDeleteI think it’s important to have a girlfriend/boyfriend because it really benefits your life.
Firstly, finding a girlfriend/boyfriend can improve your English Skill and your communication. Sometimes when you find a girlfriend, and she speaks different languages with you, you guys are speaking English, which really benefits your speaking level.
Secondly, a life partner can really help you with solving your problems in life. You can talk with her open heart and you will feel better when you say it out, and your partner might really help you. For example, my roommate, he has always been emotional and anxious all day, but since he found a girlfriend, he likes to talk about things in life to his girlfriend, and she usually can solve his problem perfectly. And nowadays he is very positive about life.
Thirdly, finding a girlfriend/boyfriend is important because you can gain the experience from that, that helps your future choice. People will finally get married and become a family, you can’t just choose your wife on the street randomly, so when you have several relationship experiences, you know how to choose a girl that really requires your relationship.
Admittedly, having a girlfriend/boyfriend is not a perfect choice, because it wastes a lot of times of your life, and your heart might be broken when you broke up with someone. But I think it’s better to find one boyfriend/girlfriend because it really can benefit you, away from loneliness, and she/he will really teach you something that can make you perfect in the future.
Dani:
ReplyDeleteI think it’s good to have have a girlfriend because you can learn from her and talk with her any time but as a teenager i think it’s not necessary to have one, especially for years because than you can’t experience other things with other when you’re young to have a longer relationship with a girl, I think it’s better to have when you get a little older until you a teenager I think it is better to experience new things and be with a lot of girls
Mingyang:
ReplyDeleteI don't think having a girlfriend is important. A girlfriend is not a must. I am happy to have my girlfriend to accompany me in both study and life. It's not boring. But you can be happy without a girlfriend. You can vent to a friend or family member. It's not boring. Having a girlfriend may affect your studies. And because of study, may not be able to spend a long time with his girlfriend.
Santiago:
ReplyDeleteI think the idea of having a girlfriend at this age it depends a lot on the personality of the person because there's people that at this age prefers two met new people go party and do things that teenage would do , and there's also people that prefers to stay on their houses chilling and stay with the friends that they know . for my opinion having a girlfriend at this age is not a good idea because the teenage life is to enjoy meet a lot of girls and boys and make friends not girlfriend in less words i think its a waste of time at this age . obviously in a future im going to have a girlfriend but at this age im going to enjoy this stage of my life without any commitment. but i respect the people that think in another way because this depends a lot on the way the individual thinks.
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ReplyDeleteNick:
ReplyDeleteBeing in a relationship while being a teenager isn’t important but sometimes you just fall in love
with someone and you cannot do anything about it.
Some people might say that having a relationship is completely pointless ,but it isn’t; having
someone close, to talk to ,other than your family, might be very helpful. Unfortunately being in a
relationship isn’t always easy and if you are not well prepared ,your relationship might be very
bad for you and your mental health.
Personally I have just ended my longest relationship I had in my life (around 1 year long). It was
really hard for me but it was pointless to have a relationship with someone that is on the other
side of the planet; but anyway that year was one of the best years of my life and I feel very
happy that I met her. On the other hand, because I spent so much time with her ,not listening to
my parents, I had very bad grades because it was just impossible to put everything together.
So having a relationship is a very pleasant experience but you also have to know the limits
,because concentrating only on the relationship might end badly for you.
Mike:
ReplyDeleteFor me it’s okay if you like the person to have a relationship at this age but I don’t see it like it’s that important at this age because at this age you are still meeting a lot of people, I think now in my life as a high schooler it doesn’t matter if I have a special someone now but if someone happens to be the right one then maybe and my parents think that now it’s still early for me to have a girlfriend but they wouldn’t say no, like they trust in my criteria.
Akbar:
ReplyDeleteI think that it does not matter if you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, especially at the age of a teenager, you must learn to set priorities and do self-development. You can not control your feelings, so even if you fall in love with someone, I think it will not affect your studies. About my parents, they treat such things positively, because they themselves have been through such things.
Edward:
ReplyDeleteI think it depends on our personal opinion. It is not too important but if the boy and the girl like each other, it is their choice. They need to be responsible for what they do. For me, when you have a relationship with someone more than a friend is normal; it can fit in my life because I spend time studying first and finish all the assignments in class and schoolwork, then I spend time with my girlfriend. My parents know about it, and they support it as long as I have a good grade, and it is not affecting my study.
Ayla:
ReplyDeleteNormally parents, are not okay with young teens to have partners. I don’t think is that bad tho, they are giving the Teen love a lot of importance, too much. I think that every teen should have this phase of a high school love, you learn a lot of it, in a good or in a bad way, but it shows you a lot about life. Although I don’t think is an main goal in high school to have partners, I think is a good thing. There are also bad consequences just like in everything, if you get too attached and then you break up, is gonna affect your mental health, or even inside the relationship you may stop carrying about the school so you can just focus on your partner. So in conclusion I think is not a bad thing to have partners as a teen if you are responsible.
Eric:
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's important to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you make friends with the opposite sex when you are a teenager, you may not be able to concentrate on your studies, resulting in poor grades, or spending too much time with your opposite-sex friend may not be able to spend time on self-development
Philip:
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't matter to me, because I have more important things to do now. Study hard, this matter in my opinion is more important than finding a short-term girlfriend. And my girlfriend will distract me from studying. In fact, my parents wanted me to find a girlfriend in high school, but I didn’t think so, because it was a waste of my time.
Ina:
ReplyDeleteYou don’t need to depend of someone in your life, is amazing to have someone by your side but sometimes it’s not meant to be, by being in a relationship as a teenager you can learn a lot of new things and being more mature, a lot of new chances come into your life. My parents don’t tell me nothing about having someone , they just want me happy
Hye eun:
ReplyDeleteIt depends on human thoughts, but I don't think I need it. It's hard to break up with someone, and it's hard to forget that person. Even if I meet someone else, I will sometimes think of him, and it will make me hard. If I had the ability to forget that person at all, the story would have changed, but I think it can never exist because it is a human emotion. When you grow up later, you can meet better people, if you become an adult, you can meet many people, and if you endure well in adolescence, you can meet more people when you are an adult.
And in adolescence, studying is important, and I am worried that it will interfere with studying.
Enrique:
ReplyDeleteFor me it is not important to have a relationship with someone at this age because I feel that it affects you more than it helps you because you can suffer a lot for love and it takes a lot of time and you do not focus so much on yourself so until you have a certain age and maturity I do not think it is a good option to have a girlfriend.
Harry:
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I think it's important to have a boyfriend and girlfriend, because your wife or husband will gradually develop from boyfriend and girlfriend to marriage in the future. But at the same time, at our present age, I don't think we should have sex with men and women. After all, the first-line task is not to fall in love. We are high school students. We haven't gone to college yet. There's no need to be men and girlfriends. We're still young. I have no conditions to fall in love. Maybe in the future, I can have a stable job and stable money to fall in love. After all, I'm responsible to another person. Heterosexual friends, but maintain a relationship with friends. My parents said the same thing. When you have a stable financial situation, find a girlfriend, because in this way you can fall in love at ease. You can't be responsible for others without certain financial conditions.
Kohei:
ReplyDeleteMy opinion is if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you can experience a new relationship but it doesn’t necessary mean you have to have a lover. But if you have a lover, you have to be careful that you might miss a lot of things. In Japan, there is the word “ love makes people blind”. I believe it doesn’t matter whatever our parents say. If you truly love, you can make action. It is important to have a lover to experience a new thing. But it takes responsibility.
Jimmy:
ReplyDeleteI think the important thing now is to learn rather than fall in love. If you are in love, you can't neglect your studies just because you are in love, because the past few years will determine your future path, and there will be a lot of uncertainty when you graduate. I will go to university in different places, possibly across several states or even across countries, so I think dating can wait until university, and now I have to study hard. My parents supported me to fall in love. They think this is something that every teenager will have.
Jerry:
ReplyDeleteIt’s important to have a girlfriend. Although it doesn’t matter to me, I still like to have a personal relationship with someone. My parents agree that I have a girlfriend, and they often urge me to have a relationship. They think campus love is beautiful, but it’s definitely not suitable for my life. Because I like to stay at home. If I find a girl I really like, I will change myself. Now I will live every day and study hard it is enough to for me
Vittorio:
ReplyDeleteHaving a girlfriend is a good thing if you are comfortable with her.
However, there are also some downsides to having a girlfriend here. Finding love at this age is difficult, especially here. The problem in my opinion is that the guys That I met here,when the school ends, I won’t see them again except for my compatriots.
I am convinced that having a girlfriend is not a problem for my studies.
If I had a girlfriend, I would spend less time on the bed looking at the phone, but my study time would remain the same. My parents have never had any problem with this.
Miguel:
ReplyDeletethink that having a girlfriend is fun and you can improve yourself but I think that right now it is not important in my life
Kevin (3):
ReplyDeleteTo me, I would not care if my future kid has a girlfriend or boyfriend. However, I would tell to my future kid that doesn’t lose himself in her. Based on my experience, I love my girlfriend so much so when the hard situation came to me such as breaking up with her due to her parents, it was the hardest time in my life and I literally couldn’t do anything without her.
She influences my life in a good way and she is my soulmate, but sometimes it makes me too worried to lose her.
My parents allow me to have a relationship. While being in a relationship I realized important things and I think I became mature. So I think no matter what relationship you are in now, and if you are looking for a better life and the right way to live it is gonna make you more mature and grow up.
Angela:
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, having a boyfriend or girlfriend is not that important. If you meet someone you love, then having a relationship is natural. It doesn't matter that you are a high school student or what. Many parents think having a relationship in high school will affect their academic performance. It is because high school kids don’t have much experience in relationships. They don’t know how to balance the time spent in academics and girlfriend or boyfriend. If they learn more about it, is not a problem to have a relationship in high school.
Javier:
ReplyDeletefor me it’s not necessary to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes you can just be friends with out being necessary being something else. And when anything goes wrong and you break up with your partner in a young age, it usually finish ending with the relationship and it makes you feel sad.
Yewon:
ReplyDeleteI think having a boyfriend is not an important thing. I know that most teenagers want to have boyfriends and sometimes it can improve their school life; however, most of the students who have boyfriends got a lower grade before they have their boyfriends because they spend their time on dating with their boyfriend rather than study and I think that the most important thing for the students is getting good grade in school and study hard. So it is the biggest reason that I think having a boyfriend is not an important thing. Also, if I have trouble with my boyfriend, I have lots of stress and I don’t want it. Therefore, I think having a boyfriend is not an important thing.