Monday, February 2, 2015
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About Me
- TGriffin
- I have been a language teacher (ESL/ELL, French) for 30 years. I have taught in public and private schools, immersion programs, refugee programs, adult/continuing education, elementary, middle, and high school as well as university. Currently I teach ELL at a high school somewhere in New England.
I don’t have a girlfriend now, but I had a girlfriend in my Chinese high school two years ago. If let me think about should the students have a girlfriend or boyfriend in the high school. I never have a girlfriend in American high school, so I don’t know that’s good or not, but it’s terrible to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in Chinese high school. There 99.99% of the parents don’t agree their children have a girlfriend or boyfriend during the Chinese high school time. I had a girlfriend when I went to the Chinese high school. We couldn’t tell our parents, teacher, even most friends in the class, but few month late. Our teacher knew that, and called both of our parents to talk about that. The answer for us was must separate.
ReplyDeleteLove is different in every culture, such as Asian culture and European, African and American culture. As I have seen for 15 years of my life in Vietnam, the parents are most likely to keep children away from teenager love because they think that love will make them forget their studies and get bad grades. But in the other culture, maybe having a girlfriend or a boyfriend will make them improve their studies or maybe they are the motivation of him or hers. Love has both advantages and disadvantages as I told above. My parents wouldn't worry too much about me having a girlfriend as long as I have good grades in class.
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ELL Journal
Mr. Griffin
February 4th, 2015
Romantic relationships in high school
With Valentine’s Day approaching, plenty of high school students send candy grams to their valentines, which has aroused deep concern. Some people hold the view that there are numerous disadvantages of getting into a romantic relationship in high school, while others adopt an opposing opinion that it’s quite necessary for teenagers to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. I believe both sides hold water.
In the first place, falling in love in high school may give rise to physical injuries and emotional distress. It’s universally acknowledged that high school students are in adolescence. They have poor self-control and tend to act on impulse without counting the cost. Consequently, some of their young and ignorant behaviors, such as having sex with their boyfriends or girlfriends without precautions, lead to the permanent physical harm. Additionally, teenage lovers may experience heartbreak due to an especially harsh breakup in high school. It’s more possible for teenagers to be emotionally hurt than adults for the reason that teenagers are still maturing. Numerous convincing cases can be given, but one will suffice. My friend, Laura once fell in love with her classmate, Hayden, when she was a freshman. She loved the boy so much that their romantic relationship got all of her attention, focus, energy and time. She didn’t have a separate life outside of their relationship at all. However, only a few weeks later, Hayden was bored of her intervene in his social life and had a new sweetheart. As a result, falling in love and having that not reciprocated hurt Laura so deeply that it stunted her for the rest of her life, disrupting her ability to trust and contact with other boys. Therefore, falling in love in high school can let teenagers astray and cause the permanent hurt.
In the second place, despite the fact that falling in love without the knowledge of self-protection contributes to the permanent harm, there are also some advantages of getting into a romantic relationship in high school, such as being experienced in treating a feeling and cherishing the love. For instance, a survey can back my viewpoint. The survey, conducted by an emotional magazine, “Emotion Today”, after polling 250 happily married people, has found that a significant percentage of respondents claimed that they once got into at least one romantic relationship in high school. It is the rich emotional experience that makes them experienced in dealing with feelings and avoid problems arise. Hence, even if a high school student may fail in a romantic relationship, he can learn from the failed relationship, realize his mistakes and learn to be considerate to his lover.
All the above facts go to show that there is no absolutely correct answer to the question that getting into a romantic relationship in high school is positive or negative for the youth in this day and age. It is high time that parents and educators ought to make combined efforts to guide teenagers by providing them with timely sex education when they fall in love in high school.
For me is not important right now have a boyfriend, I really want to approach the time when I can hang out with my friends instead of just passing time with my boyfriend. My parents are ok if I have a boyfriend, but I'm pretty sure that my dad will be jealous. I hate valentines day because it's just about love (couples) and I don't have one so instead I watch movies of love and eat ice cream at the same time. But it will be nice to have a boyfriend, well depends in what sense. Pick didn't know a lot of boys in Mexico because my school was just girls, but now it's different.
ReplyDeleteI think love is important for people and I want to enjoy my teenage life. Many parents think girlfriend or boyfriend is bad for teenager. However, I think there are advantages. I have a girlfriend and she study's well. She helps me to study and learn things. We are different so we can learn from each others. In high school, we are young but our love is true. When you graduate, you need to work. People think about money and life. Parents want to decide about marriage. Then, you cannot find true love. However, because we are young, we don't think about important things. For example, when you are in love, you may not study well. Love is important and it is dangerous. However, you will always feel happy.
ReplyDeleteI don't want any girlfriend or boyfriend.They will restrict me.When you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend,you can't just go anywhere you want to go.You'd better not invite other people to dance with you.You may have to spend time with her or him on weekends.Then you will be further and further with your friends.
ReplyDeleteBut what's love?Is love a feeling,or a responsibility?I liked a boy,fell in love with his smile.It's so hard to have a secret love.Finally I told him I loved him,but he said,"you don't really know me,you can't really love me."I was so sad,felt like I made a mistake.Thanks to my best friends,they comforted me.When I liked that boy,they against me at first.They said it would affect my study.I argued and said that I felt happy to see him,to like him.Everytime he smiled at me,I would be happy the whole day and thought of his smile all the day.I was looking forward to school days.When the Thanksgiving Day is coming,I was so sad because I can't see him on the holidays.But proof by facts, my crazy chasing affect my study.I always waited for his message,so I paid more attention on my iPad than my teacher in class.On the first day of Thanksgiving Day holiday,I waited for his message for 7 hours which it's really waste of time.
Now I spend my more beautiful time with my best friends.They all don't have boyfriends and they don't want boyfriends.Love sometimes is really happy,but sometimes it hurt instead.My parents don't want me to have any boyfriend too.But which is interesting,they want my brother to have a girlfriend.I guess they don't want me to leave them so early.I think I should spend more time with my parents.So I shouldn't have any boyfriends now.
Teresa Mao
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ELL journal
Mr. Griffin
2/9/15
First of all, I would like to say “HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!” to everyone. I never had a boyfriend and I think most of the teens in China don’t have girlfriends or boyfriends, it depends on what school or what teacher or what parents you have. In some school, if you have boyfriends or girlfriends the teachers will warning you or some teachers will give a detention and all teachers will take a phone call to your parents and their goals are all separate them. Maybe you will say it’s not their business, but their reasons are the same: Do you care about your grade? Do you want to you to collage? I don’t care are you going to find a girlfriend or boyfriend in the future. The parents always agree with them and help them. They say they are helping us, because we are too young.
I didn’t love or like a boy, so I did’t care about this actually. When I came to America, my father discussed this with me, he told me, you can have a boyfriend, it is your thing and decision, but you must have your principle. I don’t think it is so important to have a boyfriend for me, but if happens, it will be a good memory in the future.
See!Teresa is just one of my friends.
DeleteI think it's good for teenagers to have a bf/gf. Us teenagers are in our prime age. Having a bf/gf right now is different than having a bf/gf when you are an adult. You don't have to deal with things like income, job, and other adult's responsibility yet. You and your gf/bf can help each other in school and other stuffs. You might have to spend some money for your bf/gf, but it's worth it. It's even better if you make homemade present for he/she, and it cost no money. As for my parents, they don't care much about me having a gf or not. As long as my grades are good, i can do whatever i like. Valentine is coming and I'm preparing something for the person i love the most (beside my family) :3
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ReplyDeleteChina has a lot of conservative parents. In Chinese high school, the school rule expressly indicate that any students can't have a girlfriend or boyfriend during the whole high school time. Teachers think that is not helpful for students' grade. Chinese parents are really care about children's grade. But, a lot students still did it. Some of them has experienced several relationship. There still has a white war between students and teachers. I think for any teenager, they have their first relationship during the high school school is outgrowth. I think this is reasonable and spontaneous. Love is such a kind of holy thing. We can't limit it. In fact, a lot of parents say "ok" now if we keep grade well. We should release emotion.
ReplyDeleteI think have a girlfriend is good. If you have a girlfriend in high school,she might can help you study. I give you a example, sometimes you feel bad, you think studying is too boring I don't want to study my class, then you give up. But if you have a girlfriend this time you will think I have a girlfriend if I give up my class, how can I give her a good future? In China most Chinese parents don't want their children have a girlfriend or boyfriend, they think that is bad for your study. In my opinion I would say let them go. Maybe your girlfriend in highschool is your wife.
ReplyDeleteAs a Chinese student I think it is very important for teenagers to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. Now days almost all the student in Chinese school think the study is the most important things in their life, Study in all kinds of training class, they almost let the interminably study as their tired life. They need to change, they need to put down their pens go outside, feel the life and the Love.
ReplyDeleteTo have a girlfriend can make your study easier, because to study something will cost you a lot of energy, but if you have a girlfriend you can talk to her, both of you can share the stress and let both fell better. For a teenager, may always feel alone、helpless, a girlfriend can help you keep away from the loneliness.
In China parents or the teachers will try their best to prevent couples appear in the school, they think if you don’t study and waste time in dating a girlfriends or boyfriends will destroy the future. On another hand, in China the school have the higher average student scores will have the higher tuition, so the school won’t support the couples in the school.
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ReplyDeleteEveryone is different, some people can control themselves very well. Even they have girlfriend or boyfriend, they still can concentration on study and get good grades. For me, I think boyfriend may will distract me from study. My parents do not want me to have a boyfriend in high school, because they sent me to study in US. And they want me to focus on my study instead of falling in love. In China, schools do not allow teenagers to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. In other words, we cannot have girlfriend or boyfriend until we go to the college. They believe that studying in a good college can change your life. That is the reason why they don’t allow us have a girlfriend or boyfriend in high school, and I believe they are trying to avoid anything may distract us. But having a boyfriend in high school can help me work harder than before. We can set goals together, and we will work toward our goals. In my opinion, if there really has a boy is suitable for me and he loves me, maybe I will try. But I won’t make a boyfriend just because I am boring and lonely.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I think it's good for teenagers to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. Love on campus is the most clean and pure, it is not doped element of society. In China , most parents don't allow their kids have boyfriend or girlfriend , and teachers will tell you puppy love will influence your study. Actually, if you find a good girlfriend or boyfriend,it might help you. As we all know , when you fall in love with someone , girls always will imagine their future, they will try to become better to have a good future. Boys always will improve how good they are , they will work hard to improve they will have a better future. If you don't have boyfriend or girlfriend, you don't need worry about that . Before that , what you should do is to improve yourself , work for college , learn different skills , I think you will find your true love in some day. So, girls and boys , Happy Valentine's Day ! If you have a girlfriend or boyfriend, it's time to prepare gifts for your girlfriend or boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't reply that if u have any bf or gf!!!
DeleteBy the way,tell the truth.
DeleteIs it important for teenagers to have a girlfriend or boyfriend? It is undeniable that this is a controversial issues. In my opinion, the answer is IDK. The advantages of having a boyfriend you will have a person who you can trust, and the only one who really know you at all. Someone can make your life completely different. The disadvantage of getting into a romantic relationship in high school is some days you guys will break up. Because it is high school, it is just 1/6 of your life, you will meet more people in the future. My parents never influence my decision, may be my friends will influence my decision.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was in middle school, what I thought is better to have a girl friend as soon as I can, but nowadays my opinion changed. I will never be eager for a girlfriend like before, and I even think that having a girlfriend is a troublesome thing for me. I am only 17 now, and my ideal age for marriage is 23 or 24. If I can't make sure she will be my wife in future, why do I spend much time and energy on her. In conclusion, I don't think that get a girlfriend in high school is good for me.
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ReplyDeleteIn opinion, actually, I don't care about having a girlfriend or boyfriend. Because I didn't have any boyfriend in before. A long time ago, my mom told me:"You can't have any boyfriend before you graduate from university. High school and university are very important. You can get a lot of knowledge from high school and university. These knowledge will help you a lot in the future. However, boyfriend can make you distraction, then influence you grades. If you don't have any boyfriend, you will focus on study. It is good for your future. "
DeleteHaving a boyfriend or a girlfriend is just one of those experiences that you might going to have in high school. If you have it, enjoy it. But don't feel like you have to. This is my opinion. And I also think the influence of having a bf or gf depends on what kind of couple you are. The best situation is both of you are positive and willing to help each other. Then it's definitely good. But the worst thing is breaking up. Which will make people feel depressed. So, it's all up to student themselves. I have a few friends that are having a relationship even when their parents tell them not to do so. But actually, my teachers in my old high school usually will just let it go.
ReplyDeleteDepending on the person you might want to have a girlfriend or not because there are people who are like, girls? No thank you, then are others that just want them for a party and the others that want them for being their other half, so, depending in which stage of this three you are you would like to have a girlfriend or not.
ReplyDeleteA good advantage of having a girlfriend is that you always have a reason for waking you up everyday, or maybe just that you want to feel how a kiss is, I don't know but what I think that a really bad disadvantage is that you get more distractful with your studies (because that happened to me in the past) so what I think is that you are free to do whatever you want to but always being responsable and knowing the consequences.
My parents and friends don't influence in any of this kind of decision because it's what my heart feels so I can't do anything against it but what is also true is that if you see your friend with a girlfriend, you start thinking about having one...
Love is a permanent topic. Everybody talks about love, no matter different years different countries or different races. For me, I think love is very important to man and woman. It 's not only for ethics and multiplied. I think people always need a partner to identify with and communicate with, and love is only add a time on it, the time is the rest of the life. I think we don't need a specific time to love. People usually not marry with the first love. So I this is ok to teenagers have boyfriend or girlfriend, because we need experience to choose our husband or wife.
ReplyDeleteNowadays it is very usual to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend while being a teenager. For some people it is really important to have one, they are probably influenced by society. In my view it is important for teenagers to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, it has many advantages. This essay will discuss how important it is for teenagers, the advantages and disadvantages that it has and the parents influence in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteI think it is important to have a relationship at my age because it helps you to develop as a person, you get the chance to learn more about yourself and it is part of the mental and emotional maturity. On the other hand the disadvantages could be that not everybody is ready to have a serious relationship besides you can have problems such as an unwanted pregnancy.
If you ask to any student in Thornton Academy if they would like to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend most of them will say yes. Everyone wants to fit in today´s society, and eventhough you can be a ¨cool guy¨ without a girlfriend most of the people believe that you need to have a girlfriend in order to be ¨cool¨. It is somehow peer pressure.
In my opinion I don´t think parents have a strong influence in this because usually when you are a teenager you do not talk about relationships with them, nevertheless I strongly believe that friends have a big influence. When you start dating a girl or a boy the first persons to know about this are your friends you will ask them for advices and they may encourage you to do something or not.
Eventhough being in a relationship can lead to different conflicts I think it is great to be in a relationship as long as you are in love with that person. Sometimes being in love can fill the emptyness that you have in your heart, besides scientific studies say that being in love has positive effects in terms of health.
I think love is good but not to have a girlfriend when your still in high school because you need to focus on school and your future, maybe you can start thinking about a girlfriend in second year of college so that you can experience how love is. The disadvantages are that you can't focus on school and your career and the advantage is that when you get a girlfriend in high school is that you learn from your mistakes and in the future you get to know what girls mostly like and dislike. My dad does not influence me in this decision because he always wants me to first finish high school and do everything and anything else I want when I graduate so I can experience and explore how life is
ReplyDeleteI don't think to get a girlfriend or boyfriend is a good choice for this year. I am junior, and I think my grades are most important for me this year. If I have a boy friend, I think I will disperse my mind to him. That's mean I can't study very well. In my opinion, I need to work very hard because I want to go to a college in America. Unfortunately, my grades are very low right now, that makes me so nervous because If my grades still like that, I won't come back TA next year. So I will try my best in this semester,and I will improve my grades! Good Luck for me!
ReplyDeleteI don't think this is very important to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in High school students should more focus on their grades than relationship. For me teenagers have all life to find a girlfriend or boyfriends they don't need specially to find love as teenagers . If I had a girlfriend I would not tell my parents because this is my private life they don't need to know if I am single or in a relashionship .
ReplyDeleteIt is important for me to have a girlfriend. It is nice to stay with a girl, not only boys. And another reason is you want them. You want girls. Maybe you are mad sometime. That is the person you can talk with. Also you can share your happiness with her. Friends are important, girlfriend is important too.
ReplyDeleteIt depends if you like be committed it is awesome idea but if you like be single don't have girlfriend that is a serious commitment not you be playing with the feelings of others
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's important to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. First,we are so young,and we don't know how to love ourselves and how to love other people. It's the time that we should take more time on other things. Second, I don't think that nobody can live without a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Lives is yourselves,you should know what should we do and what shouldn't we do. There is no more chance that life will give to you,so,be careful and think before you have a dicision.
ReplyDeleteI think have a girlfriend is importantpoint.First,because you will feel not alone and can encourage each other to study hard.Second, you will increase concern,if you feel not good in school, your girlfriend will help you even your heart feel not good, she can talk with you,that's a really good thing.
ReplyDeleteThat was Jack Zhao.
DeleteI don't think is very important to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. But if you like someone you can't do nothing. I think have friends of diferents genres and no stay with boys all the time.
ReplyDeleteI'm all for people who have a partner, but also from those without, because we are young and we have fun.
but if you love someone, then you can be happy with her equally.
I am fourteen years old.Now, I don't have girlfriend. I think it is middle that now you have a girlfriend. In China, I am in middle school,most teacher and parents don't let us to have girlfriend.Because we are too young,If you have a girlfriend you will put your most time and energy on your girlfriend,not studying.I think I can have a girlfriend when I am eighteen years old.Because I am a adult. It is better than now to have a girlfriend.Now I need just to study hard and go to a good college.That now what I need to do.
ReplyDeleteWith Valentine’s Day approaching, plenty of people prepare celebrations for celebration with valentines or friends. Teenage love is important but not necessary. Having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is one of experiences for us to join into the changing world; and it's helpful to let teenagers become mature. Love is not necessary because it doesn’t mean you cannot be mental maturity without a romantic relationship in high school.
ReplyDeleteSome people have boyfriends or girlfriends can concentration on study and receive good effect in life; for those people the teenage love what makes a mature person. But some people cannot remain good grades and receive bad influence in life. For instance, one of my middle schoolmate who is studying at Washington now, she got habit of smoking because of her boyfriend.
In China, most parents and teachers don't allow children to have boyfriend or girlfriend. Fortunately, my parents and some of my teachers don't think so. Because my parents met at high school, they think is completely alright to have boyfriend in high school, if the boy is not a bad guy. Besides, my middle school math teacher thinks the romantic relationship is an important part of memories in high school.
ReplyDeleteSome people agree to have a romantic relationship in high school but some people don't, it's always depends on what people think. I agree with to have a valentine in high school. Having a valentine makes people who fall in love works harder at school and makes people realize how important the dress is. Valentines need to run out of their mind to think about that what their lover need and how to make them happy. That makes valentine perceptual than singles.
My parents told me I can't have a girlfriend until college, but that's impossible for a teenager spend time without a lover. They said I'm too young to know what kind of girl I want. However, no fail, no group. And then we will know what kind of girl we need, because we always learn things quicker when we failed.
I've loved a girl since the high school started. She's the reason makes me get away from computer games and study hard because she told me she won't talk to a person who is bad in study. But I realized it's so tough to say my heart out loudly. Ever thought, lots of people have noticed that already. Some of my friends coming to help me to capture her heart. However, she didn't talk to me for a long time, in some point. I thought she's not talking to me anymore and we can't even be friend, so my grads goes down straight. However, she helped me work out after she notice my grads are bad. I spend a long time to think about do I need to tell she my love. The decision is not because I noticed I was really bother her. But I'll keep this affection in deep of my heart. I'll tell her that only when I think I'm good enough.
I was so surprise when I start to school because many couples are kissing and hugging each other in front of the classroom. It never happen in Korea. If someone do that, all of the people in that place will watch them. Also teacher will give them a punishment. Korean school is more straight than America school. So we had some rules about in a relationship. I think making a girlfriend or boyfriend is not necessary for students. They usually waste time a lot and can't focus on study. If they can control themselves well, it doesn't a problem, but most of them are not. We can make good girlfriend and boyfriend in the college.
ReplyDeleteNow it is commonly held that dating in high school is acceptable, which has become a hot point under discussion. Some people hold the opinion that students should put their study in the first place. Besides, fall in love with someone could causes extra spending, which is a burden for students and their parents. While others think that dating could be good for students.
ReplyDeleteFor one thing, dating could help student learn how to be more socialize. Now the phenomenon is not rare to see that students only show up in classroom, dormitory and refectory,For that reason, we should approve of dating in high school, so that students could have more motive power to go out to find someone who is fit in them.
For another,when a couple work or study together, they will feel less exhausted, because we always want to show our best side to the one we love. Besides, student couple study together is more efficient, for they have the same target and they will encouraged each other.
Taking all these factors into account, we should approve of dating in high school. It could make college life more vividly, enrich student’s life style and help them to be more socializing.
Everyone have differents situation. I think have a boyfriend or girlfriend is good. All examples around me is good, I have a friend when I in China, her boyfriend had very bad grade but this girl is a top student. Her boyfriend wants to take a same high school with her, and then he studied a lot. He was really hard working. He’s grade even better than that girl. Although they are break up now, but that is a good example. In China, most parents don’t allow their child have girlfriend or boyfriend. For me, my father allowed me to have boyfriend when I was 15 years old. He thinks that is a good way to make me have more experience. Maybe my first boyfriend is not my husband in the future, but that can make me have more experience like how to get along with boy and how to protect myself. In the high school, we select our girlfriend or boyfriend more careful. I think this boyfriend or girlfriend who you choose will be a very important one. Maybe that is your wife or husband in the future. Girls all wants a wonderful future, boys too. For their future, they will pay more effort. Finally Happy Valentine’s Day~!
ReplyDeleteShould we have a relationship in high school?My opinion is neither positive nor negative.We don't have to find a girlfriend or boyfriend on purpose.Just let it be the way it's gonna be.Love is sacred,when you meet your Mr/Mrs Right,you can just go for it.If not,you just stay at the position where you are.There is no need for us to look for a relationship painstakingly.Overall,I don't think a REAL relationship will not affects a student's grades,actually it will become a motivation of a student,a real love can make you think about your future,think about what can you do for your couple,how can you make her/him live better in 10 years,20 years or further.In a opposite way,if students just want to have a relationship for their loneliness.That might hurts their grades,they are just having fun with each other,not real love.
ReplyDeleteThanks, everyone, for your thoughtful comments on the pros and cons of having a boyfriend/girlfriend in high school; there are a variety of opinions here, which is good! Have a great vacation.
ReplyDeleteI don't think get in a relationship too early is a good thing. When we are young, we should focus on what we need to learn, whether its sport, academic or other things we love. However, get in to a relationship can really help us to understand the how the society work. Have a boyfriend or girlfriend is the best way to learn how to communicate with other, what should we do in some situation, it helps us grow.
ReplyDeleteFrom my points of view,I think it is fine for young students to get in a relationship.The reason is that the more younger the people fall in love with each others,the better relationship they will have.For example,my parents met and fell in love when they were only 15.And the relationship between my father and mother is so good that they even haven't been arguing anything since they got marry.
ReplyDeleteBut,if the relationship makes a bad impact on the students school life,it will be better for the students to end it up.Because once you can not do a great job in school,the whole life of the students will be bad.
I think love is good but not to have a girlfriend when your still in high school because you need to focus on school and your future, maybe you can start thinking about a girlfriend in second year of college so that you can experience how love is. The disadvantages are that you can't focus on school and your career and the advantage is that when you get a girlfriend in high school is that you learn from your mistakes and in the future you get to know what girls mostly like and dislike.
ReplyDeleteI tried to find a girlfriend in high school, but I fall. I don't think find a boy/girlfriend is necessary for a high school student, but there are lots of advantages if you can find a girl/boy you like. If I find a girlfriend, I think she will become my best female friend, and we will have a lot of time to stay together just like friends. I think a good girlfriend can help me when I meet any problems or setbacks, but if you don't find a good girlfriend, it will surely influence my study and normal life..... I don't like usually disputing with a girl...
ReplyDeleteI believe a standard high school boy wants to find a girlfriend, just like friends who are around me. They influence me a lot, but all of us have same experience. Girls refused all of us... These are some sad stories. My parents are classmates when they are in middle school and high school, and my mother refused my father lots of times because she wanted to pay attention on studying on that time! They agree me to find a girlfriend in high school, but girlfriend is necessary for my high school life. Studying hard and living happily are my goals in high school life!
I think it ok to have a lover when we are teenagers because everyone have the right to like someone, but most of the Chinese student they don't have lover because the parents don't let them to do it, I had girlfriends in China, I'm the lucky one, my parents they don't mind I have girlfriends.
ReplyDeleteI think love is a very good thing. I enjoy the process of loving and being loved. Between me and my girlfriend always help each other. We are loyal to each other with each other. We will get together during the holidays to travel, although we can not always see the face. We call each other every day and talk to the other side of the video to miss. I think this is a good way to vent their emotions. I support high school love.
ReplyDeleteI think love is a very good thing. I enjoy the process of loving and being loved. Between me and my girlfriend always help each other. We are loyal to each other with each other. We will get together during the holidays to travel, although we can not always see the face. We call each other every day and talk to the other side of the video to miss. I think this is a good way to vent their emotions. I support high school love.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion,I don't think it's important to have a boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteHaving a boyfriend will influence my study at somepoints, i will put me attention on getting along with my bf. This way, my grade may drop and it makes a great disadvantages.
But if he studys well and we study together, we can help each other and raise the grade. This way, we can support each other.
My father is disagree about teenagers having bf/gf at highschool.
People always say that a girl friend of a boy friend is bad for a student. But for myself, I think have a girlfriend is a good thing, my mum always tell me that it's not a problem if i have a girlfriend, she thinks In my age now, it's the time to meet girls. In my option, girlfriend can always bring me positive energy. I think girlfriend can make me do better on my grade, so that's not a problem for me. But when you in the bad relationship, that will hurt you a lot, so i think have a girlfriend is always a good thing.
ReplyDeleteI don't care teenagers should or should not get boyfriend or girlfriend. Because I think it is depends on themselves. Teenagers find girlfriends or boyfriends in high school, I think the advantages are they can enrich their experience. And also it is really happy spend time with girlfriend and boyfriend. I think the disadvantages are they might spend too much time on their boyfriend and girlfriend, and spend too much money. My parents always respect my opinion. So they don't care me about problem of girlfriend, but they do not want to me spend too much time on girlfriend. I also need to focus on study.
ReplyDeleteI have to admit that I am very lucky because my parent always by my side although whatever I do. About having a lover, I think it is the most normal stuff that everyone have to go through and it is nothing special that any parent have to worry about. About me, I have to admit that I have no experience of boyfriend-girlfriend game because I always study and not a very social guy. But I think that this loving game is not really involve in study because if you know how to do it right, you will study event better
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ReplyDeleteLove is very special in puberty. I don't think we can meet the “right one” in high school easily. In high school, we are so young. We don't have the ability to control our stupid mind. We make too many mistakes and that can hurt our lovers easily.
ReplyDeleteWe are still naive, very naive......
We even can't take good care of our parents. How can us look after our boy & girlfriends?
Maybe we need experience, maybe try new things is exciting. However, love is a relationship with another one. If you fail, you will hurt not only yourself, but also your friends.